Just because I post it doesn't mean its true. And just because it's true doesn't mean I post it.

Let me start with I don't have anything against people who display their children on social media. Whether it be for the right or wrong reasons. It’s your kid, your choice! I'm not here to judge you or tell you how you should conduct yourself on your instagram feed. I'm simply here to explain to you why I personally have decided not to overly expose my children on my social media.

As a mother sometimes we feel the pressure to post pictures of us doing things with our kids. Almost as if we're in competition with other moms to see who does more fun things. Or to prove to our selves & family or friends that we're the good moms we say we are.

My mother often reminds me of how much of a better mother my sister is because she's always posting about fun activities like picking strawberries, or going to the pumpkin patch, or baking muffins and whatnot. Little does one know about the actual reality. Now just like any mother/daughter relationship she knows just what buttons to push when it comes to my views about parenting my children. This is where we clash and I don't think that we will ever agree, but that's another blog, lol.

Now when you further analyze these types of posts or stories that every minute is accounted for on instagram for your audience to view, ask yourself how much time of that video is quality time being spent with your child/children? Unfortunately my mother is not alone in her thinking. She's just one of those people on instagram that are convinced that if I didn't document it, it didn't happen. So in her eyes how could I be a good mother. Right!

My instagram feed will not include pictures of the time I took my kids to my fave Toronto skyline view spot, or the hundred's of Blue Jay's games we attended over the years (we basically had season seats) or the first I was able to afford taking my parents to a fancy pants restaurant called Port, or the 18th Birthday bash we had for my Daughter at the Cactus Club downtown, or the time my boyfriend was so generous enough to treat my entire family to an amazing Raptor's experience at the Scotiabank arena. No, you will not catch me pulling out my phone to snap pics, but what you will find is me 100 balls deep in making real memories, authentic and uninterrupted quality time with my children type of memories.

By sharing a piece of yourself on your social media, we invite others to be a part of our lives. 

And I know it comes as a shock to some being that I'm in the social media industry but I couldn't be farthest from this! I'm just not one of those people that's feels the need to post about every little detail of my life or my children's lives.

Another huge reason why I don't post, or try to limit the amount of posts of my kids or any loved ones for that matter is that I am extremely protective of them and who get's to see a glimpse. When posting a selfie I am the one making the decision to post it, but when posting family pictures do we ever stop to think about our their privacy? or how they feel about their image being posted for all to see? Have we ever considered what type of digital footprint we're leaving for them? Something to think about huh..

Now don't get me wrong. Occasionally I will post pictures. It's just human nature to want to

take pride and share great moments with our audience. But when posting becomes a part of every minute of your everyday life, well that' just not me. Besides being a mom, running 2 online stores, being a freelance social media manager and content creator keeps me pretty busy. My time is limited, so the free moments that I have I completely unplug and disconnect from my social world. The least of my priorities is picking up my phone to document the moment instead of live it.

I refuse to enter into this virtual competition of who makes the best Mom or whatever is trending that week. I don't seek validation, nor do I need it.

What about you? Am I the only mom that thinks this way? Do you post your children on your social media and why?

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